Can you handle an irrational person?

Good Afternoon Blog Readers, Followers & New Visitors. 

You have entered into a Blog Session that you will be able to quickly identify with.

When we were last here, we discussed the topic of "Finding a way to deal with Irrational People in the year 2017"

Now we are back after you have had a chance to jot down a few questions for your Journal.  Here were the questions for you to make a note of . . .

Is irrationality related to paranoia?  Is there such a thing as irrational paranoia?

Can irrational people alienate others from their life because of their behavior?

Do you know any irrational people who blame everybody they come in contact with for something ~ anything they can finger them for? 

How can you handle irrational people?

There are people that may have a more serious problem than "irrationality".  It will take a professional to help those who have a significant mental problem or mental illness that they are truly helpless to get past without professional help.  You may not be able to recognize a person who needs professional help, however Professionals can often recognize them sooner.  Non-professionals recognize them after a period of time in dealing with them and realizing that there is something more serious going on as indicated by their actions, their continuous irrational thinking and their being completely resistant, overly defensive or argumentative with any help you offer.

Psychologists and therapists help patients stabilize their thinking to cause them to be less reactive and impetuous and more thoughtful in how they react to situations in their lives. Counselors offer patients advice and suggestions and steps to take charge of their lives.  Coaches give patients and clients advice about how to set goals and stay committed to the steps in achieving them.

People acting irrationally will not usually listen to reason. They won’t listen to rational explanations.  They only want to fulfill a need within them usually right away.  So they behave irrationally until that need is fulfilled.

The problem comes when they can’t fulfill that need so they continue to act irrationally.  And that, unfortunately, can sometimes go on for years. 

What is being described is similar to a baby wanting candy, and they will not hear any such thing as "no".  The baby will stay focused on getting the candy and not listen to reason as to why they cannot have it.

Could it be possible that irrational people are stuck in a zone where they cannot be reached at all?  Or is it possible to somehow get an understanding of what is really wrong with them?

Here are some irrational behaviors for you to think about...

1)  You give up on something because it requires you to make a phone call.

2)  You keep an unwanted or defective product because you’re too scared to return it.  What if they won’t take it back?

3)  You see a group of people laughing and you immediately think that they’re laughing at you.

4)  You remove photos from your social media sites if they don’t receive positive feedback shortly after being posted.

5)  You hear a knock at your front door and immediately become silent, because you don’t want them to hear you.

6)  You meet a friend of your friend and worry that they like each other more than they like you.

7)  You always think people are looking at you.

8)  You believe others have it out for you.

9)  You are a people pleaser and neglect your family obligations, and important things you need to do for yourself.

10) You hold a grudge for years about something minor that happened to you in your life, and you can't seem to let it go.

11)  You scream at the computer as if it is human.

Irrational Person alone at home

We’ve all had to deal with someone who was irrational at one point in our lives or another.  We all have the capability of being that way once in a while.  And when we have been irrational, there was usually someone who told us to calm down, or look at things a different way.

Now the person who is extremely irrational will not be able to accept nor receive being told to calm down, take it easy, or change their point of view.  They will fight against you, get defensive, become angry, argumentative, and some will even get irate, start seething, and may even begin ranting and raving and/or become violent.  This type of person may possibly need professional help, and/or medication.

Make a note in your Journal:  When a person becomes irrational, like was mentioned earlier, they get focused.  Then their responses and reactions become more primal than logical.  They then start getting tunnel vision and then they will start doing things that they believe will fulfill a need that they have.

Irrationality really comes down to: Fulfilling a need.

Sometimes the irrational person may have a need to be right about their point of view versus the point of view of the person they are talking to, regardless of whether the other person's point of view is right or not.

The irrational person may believe they know what they want, and they believe it is rational, and sane.  They usually believe there is only one way to get what they want, and they will do whatever it takes to get it.

The question that closes out this Blog Session is this . . .

What is insanity?

Until we meet again for another great Blog Session ~

Peace, Love & Light,

 René

© Copyright - René Allen - JUNE 2017 - All Rights Reserved

Finding a way to deal with Irrational People

in the year 2017

Well here we are once again to talk about a topic that may just interest you.  The reason why this topic may interest you is because chances are you have an irrational person or two in your life.  Just think for a minute...am I right about it?!

Many people have absolutely lost their minds these days. Their thinking is off balance.  Some might call it "crazy".  But lets just put it nicely, and say their behavior may be a little "irrational".

Which brings us to this ~ What is rational behavior?

To be rational has to do with having actions that are based on or in accordance with reason or logic.  Hummm....

So here is the question for all Readers today:  How do you deal with the difficult or irrational people in your life?

Lets just say that irrationality is one of the most challenging behaviors to face.  When someone is being irrational, they don’t listen to reason, logic, or even common sense.  They become laser focused and have one goal in mind -- whatever that goal may be at the time.  They tend not to hear anything that is being said that makes sense.

There are all kinds of books about this topic.  I have not read any of the following, but they are out there -- so maybe you have read them or heard about them:

1)  How to Deal with Irrational People: What to do When

      Common Sense Fails and "Crazy" Behavior Prevails

      By:  Paul Colaianni (Author)

2)  Talking to Crazy: How to Deal with the Irrational and 

       Impossible People in Your Life

       By Mark Goulston (Author)

3)  How to Deal with difficult People:  Discover the Secret to

      Disarming and Dealing with Difficult People

      By Charles Acklin (Author)

Now, certainly you can probably write a book of your own on this subject matter.  We have to face the fact that we all know people who are irrational, difficult, and may just happen to be somewhat out of control when it comes to being rational or logical.

When it comes to dealing with an irrational person, you can make no headway with them, because they are like walls. There is no way to reason with them, talk sense into them, or have a conversation with them that leads to logical, sensible, or rational results.  Just forget it.

So what do you do?

Dealing with an irrational person

How to you deal with or talk to someone who is out of control?  How do you handle someone who yells to get their point across about everything?  What do you do about an adult person who feels a need to cry about every little thing? How do you handle the person who has a conspiracy theory about the ants crawling across the floor, because they think the ants are equipped with microphones?

Have you ever met a person who is a Team Leader with a team that is mute or missing in action?  Wonder why?

Wonder no more.  People who are irrational never smell the coffee burning, never see the light, and never understand reasoning.  They do and say things that are over the top, off the cliff, and in the lagoon.

Imagine trying to talk sense into a man that you see doing this . . .

Irrational Behavior

What you see above in the picture is extreme.  But, understand that dealing with irrational people is like facing a situation like this.

You hear about irrational people in the news every day.  Like people running people over with their car because they are mad at them.  Or the road rage person who takes it too far and kills another individual because they rode too close to their bumper, or would not go fast enough when the light turned green.  Just think about all of the people who scream at others in their cars as if they can hear them with their windows rolled up, and they are two cars ahead of them... Really?  Yes, really -- these things happen.

There are people who are so into the internet social sites that they have turned their actions online into a reality show.  I mean really -- they are angry about things said and done on line, even when the person saying whatever is located 1,000 miles around the globe, and could care less whether that person is mad or not.

Then you have the people that act as if everything online or on television is about them personally.

Journal Notes

Here are some questions for you to write in your Journal for today's topic . . .

Is irrationality related to paranoia?  Is there such a thing as irrational paranoia?

Can irrational people alienate others from their life because of their behavior?

Do you know any irrational people who blame everybody they come in contact with for something ~ anything they can finger them for?

It is irrational to think that your unhappiness can be made better by blaming someone else for it?  It may work well for the Drama Kings & Queens, but it is not rational behavior.

It is irrational to think that other people in your life do not have other things to do except worry about your concerns every day of their life.

It is also irrational to think that just because mostly everyone you know has a cell phone these days, that anyone that you call should pick it up right away, and be available for you. Imagine someone being mad at someone because they didn't answer the phone when they called because they happened to be in the bathroom ~ imagine that.

Am I talking to anybody?

Unless the irrational person has some sort of psychosis or mental illness, there are ways to bring an irrational person back to rational thought.

We'll discuss those ways in our next exciting Blog Session.

Have a blessed day until we meet here again Friends ~

Peace, Love & Light,

 René

© Copyright - René Allen - JUNE 2017 - All Rights Reserved