The Writer's Comfort Levels ~ PART 19 ~ "Kindness"

The Writer's Comfort Levels

PART 19

"Kindness"

BLOG SESSION

February 16th, 2018

Welcome back Blog Readers, Writers, Authors, Novelists, Journalists, Poets, Followers & Visitors...

We're here for another great Blog Session, so you'll want to grab your Journal so that you can take notes about our emotion for this evening, "Kindness".

Journal Notes

All Writers here with us this evening that have been following along in our Sessions about The Writer's Comfort Levels should have plenty of good notes about the 18 previous emotions that we have covered already.  And, you should also have written some very good material in your Journal for our last Journal Exercise about the emotion of "Shock" in relation to the three babies and the cat pictured in our last Session.  [You will find our last Blog Session if you scroll down past this one, or you may find any of our previous Blog Sessions over in the far right-hand Column in our "Blog Archive"].

As we dive into the emotion of "Kindness", you'll want to take a moment to reflect on whether or not you consider yourself to be "kind"?  In case you are wondering what the definition of kindness is, I'll provide you with a short description below. . .

Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.

There are many descriptions for what you may consider to be a kind person other than what is listed above.  I'm sure you've heard people describe someone they believe to be kind like so...

"He really showed forth kind-heartedness."

"She sure was "warm-hearted."

"They really showed a great deal of tender-heartedness."

"They really showered us with a great deal of goodwill."

Other words that bring to mind people who know how to show kindness to others are:   affection, warmth, gentleness, tenderness, concern, care, consideration, considerateness, helpfulness, thoughtfulness, unselfishness, selflessness, altruism, compassion, sympathy, understanding, big-heartedness, benevolence, benignity, friendliness, neighbourliness, hospitality, amiability, courteousness, generosity, magnanimity, indulgence, patience, tolerance, charitableness, graciousness, lenience, humaneness, mercifulness, decency, bounteousness, and also, "loving".

You may find this hard to believe, but some people find it very hard to be kind to others.  Some people find it difficult to show kindness to another person.  In fact, there are people who take great pride in being hateful and unkind.

You have to wonder if people who are hateful and unkind were treated that way and learned just how to perfect that horrible disposition.  And you also have to wonder if people who are hateful and unkind are bitter about something that went wrong in their life?

Kind Acts are needful.   Good Deeds are welcomed.

Kindness comes from the heart

What is the latest "Act of Kindness" that you have done?  When was the last time you performed a good deed?

To assist others, be of service to others, to offer help to others, or to aid others in any way are all acts of "kindness".

An Act of Kindness

Children tend to emulate what they see their parents, adults or other children do.  Do you find yourself doing something that you witnessed as a child?

Is this a scene you'd like your child to emulate?

Do you ever wonder how many abusers have come from a family that practiced abuse on a daily basis?  This includes not only physical abuse, but also emotional and mental abuse.  Being unkind is oftentimes a "learned" behavior.  Unkind people are also very, very insecure.  Bullies are bullies because they feel so very small.  You'll also find that jealous and envious people are generally mean-spirited.  Also known as "back-stabbers" and "snakes".

Whatever the reason a person is unkind to others, there is no excuse for that type of behavior.  Remember, the things that we do come from the "heart" ~ the good and the bad.

Son emulating his father

Showing your children the right way, the best way, the smart way, and the kind way is much more beneficial than having your child learn the wrong way, worst way, ignorant way, and the mean way from others.

Kids tend to imitate other children . . .

Children tend to emulate what they see on TV

as well as what they see other children do.

As a parent, you must pay attention to what your child is watching on television, on the computer, on their tablet, cell phone if they have one, and what they are reading.  Who are your child's friends?  What type of parents do your children's friends have?  Do you know?  Do you care?

Also be aware:  Is your child being bullied at school, or is your child acting as the school bully?

Is your child learning how to talk on the phone?

What types of conversations are you having?

The answer will give you a good indication on the types of conversations your child will be having.

As we close our Blog Session for this evening, remember ~ Kindness has a lot to do with "manners" . . .

Have you ever seen a man not open the door for a woman?

~ Real men still open doors for ladies ~

OUR NEXT BLOG SESSION:

Introversion (personality)

The Writer's Comfort Levels

PART 20

Peace, Love & Light

By René Allen

©Copyright - René Allen - 2014-2018 - All Rights Reserved

"It's about Love & Kindness"

BLOG SESSION

October 5th, 2017

"It's about Love & Kindness"

Welcome Blog Readers, Followers & Visitors ~ We're back for a Blog Session for your evening reading pleasure.

Today's Blog session is about love & kindness.  Is it hard for you to be kind to others?  Do you find it difficult to truly love people, especially the people closest to you?  Do you even know what love is?  Do you find it to be a problem for you to be kind to strangers by just saying "hello" or "Good Morning"?  Do you know what it means to be kind?

If you've answered yes to the above questions, then the next question for you is:  Have you been deeply hurt before?

Here's another serious question for you:  Are you anti-social?
If so, why?

Love is an intense feeling of deep affection.  Everyone has a different meaning associated with what "Love" is to them.  When it comes to romantic relationships, I'm sure you've heard someone say at one point in your life or another, "I loved him or her, but I was not 'in love' with him or her".  What exactly does that mean?  Does that mean you love the person like a 'friend', a 'brother/sister', an 'associate', a 'family member'?  Just what does that statement really mean?  Only the person making the statement really knows.  It's like two people who get married, and they are immediately seen in the eyes of others as being "in love" with one another, and everyone assumes that they "love" one another.  But did they really love one another if they get a divorce?  Were they really 'in love" with each other if they seek to divorce one another?  Or was the marriage simply a fake love story?

People's feelings are all different.  We may say, "I love you", but what does that really mean?  Does that mean that you care about the person's well being?  Does that mean that you love the person's personality?  Does that mean that you love the person's mind?  Does that mean that you find the person to be entertaining?  Does that mean that you love the person's bank account?

Here's the deal . . . Who do you love?

To be "kind" to others is in line with the attribute of "kindness".  Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.

It does not take a lot to be kind.  Are you kind to others?

And, just for the record, "Hurting people tend to hurt other people."  Maybe not intentionally, but they do so because of the pain that they carry from their hurts in life.

People who are mean to others, and/or bully others are usually people who have had others in their life who were mean to them and/or bullied them.

People who do not feel good about themselves have their own personal reasons why.  People who are insecure and/or lack confidence usually do not step out in life like they should.

Journal Notes

For this evening, please pull out your Journal and jot down notes from our Blog Session.  Then, take a moment to pull out your Diary and write in your own words about our topic for today.  From your heart, answer the questions from our Blog Session, and be honest about your feelings and emotions.

See what you uncover about yourself this evening . . .

Remember moments in your life when someone showed "kindness" toward you.  Write about it in your Diary.

Have a blessed evening, and until our next Blog Session ~

Peace, Love & Light

By René Allen

©Copyright - René Allen - 2014-2017 - All Rights Reserved

This is the month of MAY 2017

 ~ Mental Health Awareness Month ~

Greetings everyone ~ Now that we have entered into the month of May, we should all be aware that this is Mental Health Awareness Month.  This is a good time to take notice of your mental health and the mental health of those in your family, those you may work with, and those who are around you.  Now is a good time to become involved in discussions about mental health.  You never know who may be around you that is crying out for help silently.

Do you recognize any of the following symptoms in yourself or others? . . .

1.  Changes in energy levels or sleep patterns?

2.  Frequent thoughts of death or suicide?

3.  Loss of interest or pleasure in activities?

4.  Noticeable restlessness or irritability?

5.  Difficulties with concentration or decision making?

6.  Changes in appetite, eating habits or weight?

7.  Feeling sad, empty, hopeless, worthless, or guilty?

If so, then you may want to utilize Mental Health Screening Tools.

Taking a mental health screening is one of the quickest and easiest ways to determine whether you are experiencing symptoms of a mental health condition.

Mental health conditions, such as depression or anxiety, are real, common and treatable. And, remember recovery is possible.

There are guidelines for use of the Mental Health Screening Tool, and if you are unsure of which Screen to take, you can follow the guidelines to determine which Screening Tool would work best for you . . .

DEPRESSION ~ is for individuals who are feeling overwhelming sadness.

ANXIETY ~ will help if you feel that worry and fear affect your day to day life.

Bipolar ~ is for individuals who have mood swings - or unusual or extreme shifts in mood and energy.

PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) ~ is for those who are bothered by a traumatic life event.

Alcohol or Substance Use ~ will help determine if your use of alcohol or drugs is an area to address.

Psychosis ~ is for young people (age 12-35) who feel like their brain is playing tricks on them (seeing, hearing or believing things that don't seem real or quite right)

Eating Disorder ~ can help explore eating related concerns that have an impact on your physical health and overall well-being.

There are also the following areas that can be explored . . .

The Youth Screen ~ is for young people (age 11-17) who are concerned that their emotions, attention, or behaviors might be signs of a problem.

The Parent Screen ~ is for parents of young people to determine if their child’s emotions, attention, or behaviors might be signs of a problem.

Work Health Survey ~ is a screen to explore how healthy or unhealthy your work environment is.  (NOTE:  This Screen is in testing phase and every screen taken helps Mental Health American "MHA" to better understand mental health in the workplace).

You can visit the Mental Health America Website to find out how to take a Screen.

If you have any comments, thoughts, questions, suggestions, or would like to leave further information about Mental Health, feel free to leave your comments here on the Blog.

As always, I'm looking forward to having you back here in our next Blog Session for further topics of discussion and more about mental health.  In the meantime, be kind to one another.

Peace, Love & Light,

 René

©Copyright - René Allen - MAY 2017 - All Rights Reserved