The Writer's Comfort Levels ~ PART 19 ~ "Kindness"

The Writer's Comfort Levels

PART 19

"Kindness"

BLOG SESSION

February 16th, 2018

Welcome back Blog Readers, Writers, Authors, Novelists, Journalists, Poets, Followers & Visitors...

We're here for another great Blog Session, so you'll want to grab your Journal so that you can take notes about our emotion for this evening, "Kindness".

Journal Notes

All Writers here with us this evening that have been following along in our Sessions about The Writer's Comfort Levels should have plenty of good notes about the 18 previous emotions that we have covered already.  And, you should also have written some very good material in your Journal for our last Journal Exercise about the emotion of "Shock" in relation to the three babies and the cat pictured in our last Session.  [You will find our last Blog Session if you scroll down past this one, or you may find any of our previous Blog Sessions over in the far right-hand Column in our "Blog Archive"].

As we dive into the emotion of "Kindness", you'll want to take a moment to reflect on whether or not you consider yourself to be "kind"?  In case you are wondering what the definition of kindness is, I'll provide you with a short description below. . .

Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.

There are many descriptions for what you may consider to be a kind person other than what is listed above.  I'm sure you've heard people describe someone they believe to be kind like so...

"He really showed forth kind-heartedness."

"She sure was "warm-hearted."

"They really showed a great deal of tender-heartedness."

"They really showered us with a great deal of goodwill."

Other words that bring to mind people who know how to show kindness to others are:   affection, warmth, gentleness, tenderness, concern, care, consideration, considerateness, helpfulness, thoughtfulness, unselfishness, selflessness, altruism, compassion, sympathy, understanding, big-heartedness, benevolence, benignity, friendliness, neighbourliness, hospitality, amiability, courteousness, generosity, magnanimity, indulgence, patience, tolerance, charitableness, graciousness, lenience, humaneness, mercifulness, decency, bounteousness, and also, "loving".

You may find this hard to believe, but some people find it very hard to be kind to others.  Some people find it difficult to show kindness to another person.  In fact, there are people who take great pride in being hateful and unkind.

You have to wonder if people who are hateful and unkind were treated that way and learned just how to perfect that horrible disposition.  And you also have to wonder if people who are hateful and unkind are bitter about something that went wrong in their life?

Kind Acts are needful.   Good Deeds are welcomed.

Kindness comes from the heart

What is the latest "Act of Kindness" that you have done?  When was the last time you performed a good deed?

To assist others, be of service to others, to offer help to others, or to aid others in any way are all acts of "kindness".

An Act of Kindness

Children tend to emulate what they see their parents, adults or other children do.  Do you find yourself doing something that you witnessed as a child?

Is this a scene you'd like your child to emulate?

Do you ever wonder how many abusers have come from a family that practiced abuse on a daily basis?  This includes not only physical abuse, but also emotional and mental abuse.  Being unkind is oftentimes a "learned" behavior.  Unkind people are also very, very insecure.  Bullies are bullies because they feel so very small.  You'll also find that jealous and envious people are generally mean-spirited.  Also known as "back-stabbers" and "snakes".

Whatever the reason a person is unkind to others, there is no excuse for that type of behavior.  Remember, the things that we do come from the "heart" ~ the good and the bad.

Son emulating his father

Showing your children the right way, the best way, the smart way, and the kind way is much more beneficial than having your child learn the wrong way, worst way, ignorant way, and the mean way from others.

Kids tend to imitate other children . . .

Children tend to emulate what they see on TV

as well as what they see other children do.

As a parent, you must pay attention to what your child is watching on television, on the computer, on their tablet, cell phone if they have one, and what they are reading.  Who are your child's friends?  What type of parents do your children's friends have?  Do you know?  Do you care?

Also be aware:  Is your child being bullied at school, or is your child acting as the school bully?

Is your child learning how to talk on the phone?

What types of conversations are you having?

The answer will give you a good indication on the types of conversations your child will be having.

As we close our Blog Session for this evening, remember ~ Kindness has a lot to do with "manners" . . .

Have you ever seen a man not open the door for a woman?

~ Real men still open doors for ladies ~

OUR NEXT BLOG SESSION:

Introversion (personality)

The Writer's Comfort Levels

PART 20

Peace, Love & Light

By René Allen

©Copyright - René Allen - 2014-2018 - All Rights Reserved

The Writer's Comfort Levels ~ PART 18 ~ "Shock"

The Writer's Comfort Levels

PART 18

"Shock"

BLOG SESSION

February 15th, 2018

Good Evening Blog Readers, Writers, Followers & Visitors.  Welcome back for tonight's interesting Blog Session.

We are back here together with all Writers, Poets, Authors, Novelists, Film Writers, Journalists, and Creative Writers who are interested in learning more about The Writer's Comfort Levels and the twenty-one (21) emotions we have been covering in our Blog Sessions.  Tonight's emotion is "Shock".

For all Writers following along, our Sessions are currently about learning how to be comfortable as you write about your characters and the various emotions and feelings associated with each character.  Your readers should be able to identify with and "feel" the emotions that you are writing about in your stories.

You'll need to grab your Journal so that you can take notes on tonight's writing material . . .

Journal Notes

Shock is commonly identified as a sudden upsetting or surprising event or experience.

Shock is also recognized in the medical field as an acute medical condition associated with a fall in blood pressure, caused by such events as loss of blood, severe burns, bacterial infection, allergic reaction, or sudden emotional stress, and marked by cold, pallid skin, irregular breathing, rapid pulse, and dilated pupils.

There are also earth related incidents associated with "shock", such as a violent shaking movement caused by an impact, explosion, or tremor ~ "earthquake shocks".  [Such events in connection with the earth involve vibrations, shaking, earth movement, reverberation, jolt(s), jarring, jerking, bump(s), bumping, impacts, blows, collision, crash, and/or  clashes].

Believe it or not, there are various types of "Shock".

When it comes to writing descriptions of characters in your stories who exhibit the emotion of "shock", take a moment to look at the baby above.  Looks a little like the emotion of "shock" being displayed doesn't it?

Now what could this baby possibly be shocked about?  Think about that for a second, then write a paragraph in your Journal describing what this baby is shocked about.  Name the baby, describe the event or thing that is causing this baby to exhibit this look.

In the process of writing about the "shocked" look on this baby's face, you'll also have to describe how the baby "feels".  This practice will give all of our television writers and Film Writers something to focus on that is out of the ordinary.  How do you describe the emotions of a baby?

What about this baby?

Would you describe the emotion of this baby as "shock"?

Can you find any other emotion that would be descriptive of the expression on this baby's face?  If so, make a note of it in your Journal.

Take a moment to write a short paragraph about this baby and the emotion this baby is expressing, and also describe what it is that is causing this baby to have this particular "look" on its face.

Writing about the emotions of babies is not always easy.  Especially if the babies are not able to speak yet.  Expressions on the faces of adults are sometimes very easy to identify, especially if you know the person.  But what about little infants? . . .

Can you describe the emotion

exhibited on this baby's face?

In your Journal, as an exercise for tonight's Blog Session, write a paragraph about the three babies pictured.  Think on these three things:

1)  What emotion are they feeling?

2)  What emotion does their facial expression exhibit?

3)  What could have possibly caused the reaction?

Out of all of the Genres that are available to you as a Writer, think on which genre you are focused on.  Are you interested in writing fiction, detective novels, biographies, poetry, a memoir, a film, a television series, a sitcom, a play, or a comedy?

Comedies are not for everyone, but if you have never written a comedy, you may want to read a few, and then try your hand at it.  To help you out a bit, try your hand at writing a paragraph about the cat you see below . . .

Is this shock or what?

We'd love to hear what you come up with about this cat and the babies.

Have a good evening, and we'll see you tomorrow here on the Blog for our next Session!

OUR NEXT BLOG SESSION:

The Writer's Comfort Levels

PART 19

"Kindness"

Peace, Love & Light

By René Allen

©Copyright - René Allen - 2014-2018 - All Rights Reserved

The Writer's Comfort Levels ~ PART 17 ~ "Disgust"

The Writer's Comfort Levels

PART 17

"Disgust"

BLOG SESSION

February 14th, 2018

We are back for our regularly Scheduled Blog Session about our 17th emotion, which is "Disgust" as it relates to The Writer's Comfort Levels.

If you are a Writer, Author, Novelist, Journalist, Film Writer, Poet,  Playwright, Diary Writer, Short Story Writer, or if you are working on a book, or a Writing Project that you'd like to publish, then you are in the right place!

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We all bring our Journals when we read our Sessions so that we may take notes.  If you do not have a nice Journal to write your notes in, just grab a notebook or notepad that you have available to take your notes until you can purchase a dedicated Journal that you like just for our Sessions.

Journal Notes

Whenever you are working on the personalities of the various characters in your stories, then you are well aware of the various feelings and emotions that come into play.  Each character in your story will of course have their own background.  The life of each of your characters is compiled of events, situations, circumstances, difficulties, people, family members, friends, co-workers, life problems, and in some cases tragedies and deep hurts.  Please make a special note that "feelings" and "emotions" always come into view.

As you develop your characters, consider their life story.  What have they been through in life thus far, and how have the events in their life affected them?  What kind of emotional state are they in?  What type of feelings are they harboring?

Writer's Exercise for Today

Take a moment to think about your life.  For today's exercise, please make a note of your feelings today in relation to the state of your life.  In your Journal, write today's date and our Session title:  "The Writer's Comfort Levels" ~ Part 17 ~ "Disgust".

Now, after writing down how you are honestly feeling today, take a second to just list the various emotions you are feeling.  As a point of reference, We have covered sixteen (16) emotions prior to today's Blog Session.  To review all twenty-one emotions that we are covering, click here.  Any number of the emotions listed may be exactly what you are feeling today.

After listing all of the emotions that you may be feeling today, just simply take a second to think on a time when you have personally felt the emotion of disgust.

Disgust is a feeling of revulsion or profound disapproval aroused by something unpleasant or offensive.

Other words that bring to mind the feeling of "disgust" are...

revulsion

repugnance

aversion

distaste

distasteful

abhorrence

loathing

detestation

odium

execration

horror

nausea

yuck factor

disrelish

repellence

repellency

revolt

repel

sicken

nauseate

squick

gross

outrage

shock

horrify

appall

scandalize

offend

affront

dismay

displease

dissatisfy

annoy

anger

nauseate

turn someone's stomach

make someone want to throw up

make shudder

cause to feel nauseous

make someone's gorge rise

be repugnant to

be repulsed by

turn off

Please Note:  All of the above listed words are in the same emotional area of our emotion for today, which is "disgust".

Revisiting the emotion of "disgust"

After you have written down in your Journal about the time when you felt the feeling of "disgust", sit with that feeling for about five minutes.  Run the actual incident through you mind that brought the emotion of "disgust" to the forefront.

Now, imagine that you are creating a character who has to exhibit the feeling of "disgust" in your story.  Write a sample paragraph for the sake of practice.  You may find it helpful to create a character that is actually telling the story through your own eyes.  Descriptive of what you felt when you had the emotion of "disgust" running through your veins, you will find it easy to write.  You'll also find it easy to build a story around this one character that you are creating and writing a paragraph about.

We have four (4) more emotions to cover after this Blog Session.  Those four emotions are as follows...

18)  Shock

19)  Kindness

20)  introversion (personality)

21)  extroversion (personality)

We'll be back for another great Blog Session tomorrow!

OUR NEXT BLOG SESSION:

The Writer's Comfort Levels

PART 18

"Shock"

Peace, Love & Light

By René Allen

©Copyright - René Allen - 2014-2018 - All Rights Reserved

The Writer's Comfort Levels ~ PART 16(b) ~ "Anger" ~ Extended Version [Self Assessment]

The Writer's Comfort Levels

PART 16(b)

"Anger"

Extended Version

[Self Assessment]

BLOG SESSION

February 13th, 2018

Welcome back Blog Readers, Writers, Followers & Visitors ~  We will be continuing our Blog Session today with an extended version of The Writer's Comfort Levels in connection with the emotion of "Anger".

The reason we will share a touch more on "anger" with everyone here today is so that everyone may also gain a clear assessment of where they stand as it relates to the emotion of "anger" within self (personally).

Many of us never stop to assess if we may possibly have an "anger management" problem.

So if you would, please grab your Journal for this Session so that you may have notes readily available for further review at a later time when you can sit down with yourself...

Journal Notes

"Anger"

Self Assessment

As we discussed in our last Blog Session, in order to come to terms with an anger management problem that you may be facing, you must first determine the difference between simply being upset or having a real anger management problem.  Being upset also has various levels.  While some people may have prolonged bouts of being in an emotional "upset" state of mind, others may be extremely upset for a very short period of time.  You must know yourself to truly and honestly determine where you stand personally when it comes to anger control/management.

Being upset and fuming within yourself is a lot different from being upset and throwing things around, or punching holes in walls with your fists.

Being upset in an adult way wherein you are able to express your feelings calmly and succinctly is quite different from being upset with the frame of mind of a two (2) year old and throwing temper tantrums.

Temper Tantrum in progress

Children at the age of two (2) years old often have temper tantrums and melt~downs during their second year of life because it is a time when language skills are starting to develop.  Because toddlers can't yet say what they want, feel, or need, a frustrating experience may cause a tantrum.  As language skills improve, tantrums tend to decrease.  [Now some of you are raising you eyebrows because you are thinking of a person who throws temper tantrums, but they are not two years old]...which leads to another area:  Maturity.

As we mentioned in our last Blog Session, if you think that you may have an anger management problem, it is important to seek the help of a trained medical professional.

Let us do an anger management assessment. . .

Take a moment to check yourself in the following areas:

1)  Do you get mad over little things?

      If you get upset over inconsequential things, like being

      cut off in traffic by another driver, or having to wait for

      an elevator ~ then you are likely to have an "anger

      problem".

2)  Do you interrupt people when they are talking?

       Angry people tend to be impatient people.  Often they

       have trouble waiting for others to finish what they are

       saying.  And even when they are able to let the other

       person talk, they might not actually be listening to them.

       They may just be pretending to hear them, and faking

       their listening.

3)  Are you a complainer?

      People who spend a lot of time complaining about the

      transgressions or shortcomings of other people may have

      an anger problem.  [Please Note:  Some angry people

      may rant and rave about politics, others rant and rave

      about sports, others complain about the Block Club

      Members, still some others complain incessantly about

      family members or friends, but make no mistake about it

      ~ the venom comes from the same source ~ Anger.

4)  Are you holding a grudge?

       Relationships suffer when someone has trouble

       forgiving someone who has wronged him or her in the

       past.  Here is where you need to make a note in your

       Journal that people who have "anger" issues often have

       trouble doing just that ~ forgiving...Instead, they 

       continue to re-experience the frustration, pain, hurt, and

       resentment each time they recall the wrong -- whether

       perceived or real.

5)  Do you find yourself getting hot or red in the

      face?

       Getting hot can make your face red ~ and that goes for

       emotional "heat" as well as hot temperatures as measured

       on a thermometer.  Anger can also cause laborious

       breathing, fidgeting, and even pacing back and forth.

       Anger clearly affects the body as well as the mind.  In

       fact, numerous studies have shown that angry people are

       more likely to have high blood pressure and to suffer a

       stroke or heart attack.

6)  Are you overly sensitive?

      Angry people are quick to take offense.  Comments that

      others might laugh off can get under the skin of someone 

      who has an angry disposition.  Some people with an anger

      "problem" are hyper vigilant, always waiting for others to

       screw up.

7)  Are you Cold-Hearted?

      Angry people tend not to be very compassionate or

      empathetic.  Some take pleasure in the misfortune of 

      others ~ a phenomenon known as *schadenfreude.

      And some are quick to condemn and slow to praise.

      *NOTE:  Schadenfreude is a feeling of enjoyment that

       comes from seeing or hearing about the troubles of other

       people.

For the sake of Anger Management...

Get your Journal out

Write down all the things that upset you.

Then turn the page ~

Breathe ~ and write down . . .

All the things you are grateful for.

OUR NEXT BLOG SESSION: 

(Will resume as normally scheduled)

The Writer's Comfort Levels

PART 17

"Disgust"

~ See you in our next Blog Session! ~

Peace, Love & Light

By René Allen

©Copyright - René Allen - 2014-2018 - All Rights Reserved