The Writer's Comfort Levels
PART 16(b)
"Anger"
Extended Version
[Self Assessment]
BLOG SESSION
February 13th, 2018
Welcome back Blog Readers, Writers, Followers & Visitors ~ We will be continuing our Blog Session today with an extended version of The Writer's Comfort Levels in connection with the emotion of "Anger".
The reason we will share a touch more on "anger" with everyone here today is so that everyone may also gain a clear assessment of where they stand as it relates to the emotion of "anger" within self (personally).
Many of us never stop to assess if we may possibly have an "anger management" problem.
So if you would, please grab your Journal for this Session so that you may have notes readily available for further review at a later time when you can sit down with yourself...
Journal Notes
"Anger"
Self Assessment
As we discussed in our last Blog Session, in order to come to terms with an anger management problem that you may be facing, you must first determine the difference between simply being upset or having a real anger management problem. Being upset also has various levels. While some people may have prolonged bouts of being in an emotional "upset" state of mind, others may be extremely upset for a very short period of time. You must know yourself to truly and honestly determine where you stand personally when it comes to anger control/management.
Being upset and fuming within yourself is a lot different from being upset and throwing things around, or punching holes in walls with your fists.
Being upset in an adult way wherein you are able to express your feelings calmly and succinctly is quite different from being upset with the frame of mind of a two (2) year old and throwing temper tantrums.
Temper Tantrum in progress
Children at the age of two (2) years old often have temper tantrums and melt~downs during their second year of life because it is a time when language skills are starting to develop. Because toddlers can't yet say what they want, feel, or need, a frustrating experience may cause a tantrum. As language skills improve, tantrums tend to decrease. [Now some of you are raising you eyebrows because you are thinking of a person who throws temper tantrums, but they are not two years old]...which leads to another area: Maturity.
As we mentioned in our last Blog Session, if you think that you may have an anger management problem, it is important to seek the help of a trained medical professional.
Let us do an anger management assessment. . .
Take a moment to check yourself in the following areas:
1) Do you get mad over little things?
If you get upset over inconsequential things, like being
cut off in traffic by another driver, or having to wait for
an elevator ~ then you are likely to have an "anger
problem".
2) Do you interrupt people when they are talking?
Angry people tend to be impatient people. Often they
have trouble waiting for others to finish what they are
saying. And even when they are able to let the other
person talk, they might not actually be listening to them.
They may just be pretending to hear them, and faking
their listening.
3) Are you a complainer?
People who spend a lot of time complaining about the
transgressions or shortcomings of other people may have
an anger problem. [Please Note: Some angry people
may rant and rave about politics, others rant and rave
about sports, others complain about the Block Club
Members, still some others complain incessantly about
family members or friends, but make no mistake about it
~ the venom comes from the same source ~ Anger.
4) Are you holding a grudge?
Relationships suffer when someone has trouble
forgiving someone who has wronged him or her in the
past. Here is where you need to make a note in your
Journal that people who have "anger" issues often have
trouble doing just that ~ forgiving...Instead, they
continue to re-experience the frustration, pain, hurt, and
resentment each time they recall the wrong -- whether
perceived or real.
5) Do you find yourself getting hot or red in the
face?
Getting hot can make your face red ~ and that goes for
emotional "heat" as well as hot temperatures as measured
on a thermometer. Anger can also cause laborious
breathing, fidgeting, and even pacing back and forth.
Anger clearly affects the body as well as the mind. In
fact, numerous studies have shown that angry people are
more likely to have high blood pressure and to suffer a
stroke or heart attack.
6) Are you overly sensitive?
Angry people are quick to take offense. Comments that
others might laugh off can get under the skin of someone
who has an angry disposition. Some people with an anger
"problem" are hyper vigilant, always waiting for others to
screw up.
7) Are you Cold-Hearted?
Angry people tend not to be very compassionate or
empathetic. Some take pleasure in the misfortune of
others ~ a phenomenon known as *schadenfreude.
And some are quick to condemn and slow to praise.
*NOTE: Schadenfreude is a feeling of enjoyment that
comes from seeing or hearing about the troubles of other
people.
For the sake of Anger Management...
Get your Journal out
Write down all the things that upset you.
Then turn the page ~
Breathe ~ and write down . . .
All the things you are grateful for.
OUR NEXT BLOG SESSION:
(Will resume as normally scheduled)
The Writer's Comfort Levels
PART 17
"Disgust"
~ See you in our next Blog Session! ~
Peace, Love & Light
By René Allen
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