The Telephone Conversation

with the Emotional Vampire

June 2017

Welcome back to the Blog everyone!  We had such a good conversation in our last Blog Session, and we are going to make this discussion even more interesting.  You will definitely be able to relate to everything said in this Blog Session, because you will have already by now experienced what we are going to share today.

We'll be talking about Emotional Vampires.  For those Readers and Blog Followers that do not know what an Emotional Vampire is, here is where you are going to find out all you need to know.  If you have ever had a telephone conversation with a person and started to feel like all of your energy was being sucked away, and then after the telephone call you felt completely drained or zapped, then you will understand a little better about what an Emotional Vampire is.

Here's where you grab your Journal and your ink pen so that you can write down your notes . . .

Time for Journal Notes

Emotional Vampires are like the name suggests, they drain your life away.  But, just remember, it is not your blood they are after, it is the life essence of others that feeds them. In particular if you are the one dealing with an Emotional Vampire, it is your life essence they want to feed off of.

Your life essence is the attribute or set of attributes that make you who and what you fundamentally are, and which by necessity you have and are who and what you are.  Without your life essence, you lose your identity.

Here is where I need to ask you an important question:  Have you ever been connected with someone and felt as if you were slowly losing your identity?  The longer you were around the person or spouse, you felt as if you had lost sight of who you once were?  Maybe you were dealing with an Emotional Vampire.

There is another connection that needs to be laid out here in this discussion, and it is about something that we have discussed here in other Blog Sessions.  Characteristics of narcissism and toxic personalities are very much in line with Emotional Vampirism.

If you have been around a person who is a Narcissist, or who has a toxic personality, then you will understand the nature of their abusive ways.  Emotional and verbal abuse are part of their make-up.  You have to be careful not to transfer traits of abusive, toxic or spirit sucking personalities into your own psyche.  If you are an emphatic individual, it is easy to do, so you must be extra careful.

Make sure you write this definition down in your Journal...

Emotional vampire - someone who drains the emotional energy from others, either on purpose or unintentionally.

Beware:  The Emotional Vampire

will appear to many people to be very innocent.

Here are some questions for you to answer if you think an Emotional Vampire has attached their being to you . . .

1. Do you feel drained after being in the company of certain friends, family members or loved ones?
2. Is someone you know or love always surrounded by drama and they appear to be a walking Reality Show?
3. Is everything all about them -- the sun, the moon and all the other planets and stars revolve around this friend, family member or loved one?
4. Does the person call you at any time of the day or night and demand (basically) that you hear them and be there for their needs without question?
5. Do you feel like you are being stalked by the person that is draining all of your energy, your time, and your joy?

Let us make a note that there are distinctions between the Emotional Vampire, the physical vampire, and the psychic vampire.  (The physical vampire is the blood-sucking vampire)  The psychic vampire will be discussed in another of our wonderful upcoming Blog Sessions.

The Emotional Vampire has tactics that are subtle, and they may in fact be completely unaware of their energy sucking tactics and their negative and toxic actions.

The Emotional Vampire

(Has an innocent and harmless persona at first)

The Emotional Vampire is completely self-absorbed.  And they will be focused upon themselves above all others.  They also love themselves to the highest degree, and you will find that they tend to brag as well as name drop.

Also, you will find that they draw negative attention to themselves more than positive attention.

Sometimes, their self-absorbed behavior is unintentional, it is a result of habit.  Sometimes this behavior has grown from past abusive treatment from others, and their low self esteem.  So their self-absorbed behavior is a method they use unconsciously in order for them to become stronger again.

Emotional Vampires do not listen well.  They do not really hear you, because they do not really care about anything you have to say.  In fact, you will find that if you remind them of something you have told them, they will not remember at all.

You will also find that when you speak to an Emotional Vampire and you are telling them something about yourself, or what you have done or accomplished, they will cut you off, or revert the conversation back to themselves.  They may hear what you say, but they will always be formulating their next statement(s) as you talk.  They really are not concerned with hearing you out.  They are much more concerned about what they have to say, and would prefer that you just shut up and listen to them.

The Emotional Vampire will not really listen.  They will only stare with a blank expression, meanwhile formulating a response in their mind.  They are consciously thinking of something more interesting than what you said.  Their behavior is a result of a habit they have to fight against their low self esteem.  Yes, even if you are in a simple conversation. While many will believe that the Emotional Vampire is intentional doing things to hurt them, inherently they are really just begging for LOVE and attention in the wrong way.

Somewhere in the Emotional Vampire's life, they were emotional deprived.  They did not receive the type of attention they needed to be whole within their "self".

In addition, the Emotional Vampire is (just like many other people with personality disorders), lacking spiritually.  You will not find a strong spiritual faith with an Emotional Vampire.  They will be doubtful and indecisive.

The "victim mentality" is like a coat the Emotional Vampire wears.  It is a result of abuse and/or oppression they have experienced in their life from the past.

Please Note:  Emotional vampires travel a dark and unhealthy road, playing the immortal victim.  They play this role at the expense of anyone that happens to be connected to them.

We have a lot more coming up in our next Blog Session!

UP NEXT:  More on Emotional Vampires,

as well as information on Psychic Vampires

The term psychic vampire is sometimes abbreviated psy-vamp (or psi-vamp).  Alternate terms for these entities include energy vampire, energy predator, energy parasite, and energivore, as well as psionic vampire, pranic vampire, and empathic vampire.

Until we return . . .

Peace, Love & Light,

 René

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