Empathic Listening Ear
Blog Session
June 2017
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In our last Blog Session we discussed emotional baggage and how to get rid of our emotional baggage. We are going to continue our discussion by adding in a little something here at this point that many of us fail to take into consideration...
Empathic Listening
The Benefits of Empathic Listening
Empathic listening (also called active listening or reflective listening) is a way of listening and responding to another person that improves mutual understanding and trust. It is an essential skill for third parties and disputants alike, as it enables the listener to receive and accurately interpret the speaker's message, and then provide an appropriate response. The response is an integral part of the listening process and can be critical to the success of relationships, family interactions, teams, clubs, groups, businesses, and negotiation or mediation. Among its benefits, empathic listening . . .
- builds trust and respect,
- enables people and/or disputants to release their emotions,
- reduces tensions and stress,
- encourages the surfacing of information, and
- creates a safe environment that is conducive to collaborative problem solving.
We are discussing Emphatic Listening because this helps with understanding others, which in turn could possibly answer the many questions surrounding the baggage that you may be carrying from past incidents or current ones.
Remember, we are talking about getting rid of the baggage we carry. That baggage may include:
1. Guilt
2. Anger
3. Depression
4. Fear
5. Emotional Unrest
6. Rejection
7. Blame
8. Resentment
9. Betrayal
10. Emotional Pain
11. Past Abuse
12. Hurt feelings
13. Sadness
14. Unhappiness
15. Jealousy
16. Envy
17. Unresolved Grief
18. Low Self-Esteem
19. Hopelessness
20. Lack of Faith
21. Unforgiveness
22. Disappointments
23. Addictions
24. Toxic Relationships
25. Relationships wherein there was never closure
...and possibly other weights that are not listed above.
Though useful for everyone involved in a conflict, the ability and willingness to listen with empathy is often what sets the person who is willing to have a break-thru from a person who wants to continue to wallow in dismal drama.
Discover How to Listen with Empathy
Empathy is the ability to project oneself into the personality of another person in order to better understand that person's emotions or feelings. Through empathic listening the listener lets the speaker know, "I understand your problem and how you feel about it, I am interested in what you are saying and I am not judging you." The listener unmistakably conveys this message through words and non-verbal behaviors, including body language. In so doing, the listener encourages the speaker to fully express herself or himself free of interruption, criticism or being told what to do. It is neither advisable nor necessary for the listener to agree with the speaker, even when asked to do so. It is usually sufficient to let the speaker know, "I understand you and I am interested in being a resource to help you resolve this problem."
Listening with Empathy is how problems are effectively solved.
Coming into an agreement.
Many times when it comes to business relationships and partnerships, listening with empathy is how many problems are solved. It is also an excellent way to come together to face any challenges that may arise. It is much easier to agree with one another earnestly when you have taken the time to listen empathically along the way.
When it comes to baggage, you need to take out your Journal and really take the time to write down your areas of baggage that have been weighing you down...
Emotional Baggage
If you have your Journal handy, here is where you take the time to do an assessment of what is going on with you and your Emotional Baggage.
First off, write down in your Journal what your feelings are about where you are in your life at this point?
Secondly, make sure that you Journal about what you feel in a very honest and frank way. This is for your own benefit. You will gain plenty of insight if you are honest with yourself and really push everything else aside for your personal Journal time.
Third, ask yourself: What are my expectations? What are you expecting from yourself? What have you been wasting your time doing in terms of expecting something from others that you have not been receiving?
Forth, your hopes and dreams are worthy of note. What are your hopes & dreams? Have you taken the time to write down what you are hoping and dreaming about for your future? If not, why not?
Fifth, honestly and accurately do a self-reflection. Ask yourself: What broken dreams have been weighing you down? Then go a step further, and write those broken dreams down. Why do you feel those particular dreams are broken? What got in the way? What makes you think that you cannot accomplish what you hope and dream for?
And lastly, for your Journal, listen intently to your heart. Write down your expectations. Be sure to stretch yourself. Do not expect small things. Although you should despise not the day of small things, you should also not short yourself so to speak. . .
Dream BIG! Expect MUCH!
You deserve the best life has to offer.
We'll be back later on today to discuss much more...
Until we return, enjoy your early morning coffee break...
Coffee Break
Peace, Love & Light,
René
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