Open your eyes . . .

Open your eyes . . .

It's a new day, and it is time to open your eyes.  We've been discussing quite a few topics of interest, and today will be no different.  The only difference will be the way you feel and think about what will be shared with you today.

There is one quote that should be kept in mind as you read the Blog today, and it is this . . .

“When you look into people’s eyes with the sole purpose of understanding them instead of judging or maneuvering them, they no longer have a reason to keep their guard up.” – Mark Goulston

This Quote written by Mark Goulston is chosen for today's Blog Session primarily because it is worthy of introspection. Quiet introspection can be extremely valuable.  Whether you realize it or not, the examination or observation of one's own mental and emotional processes can bring about many a revelation for the person who chooses to take the time to do so.

This is the time to get your Journal and start taking notes, as well as add your own very valuable insight . . .

Journal Note-taking Time!

In today's social setting, many people do not even bother to look up when someone says, "Good Morning" to them, or "Good Afternoon", or "How are you doing today?".

Isn't it a shame that people have become so disengaged, and so insensitive to others.  Isn't it rude to not recognize someone when they are speaking to you?  I so hope that you are aware and not so caught up in this technology age that you do not have time to look up when someone is speaking to you.  I'm saying this because it is obvious that we are raising a generation of young people who do not know what true interaction is about, and there are many adults as well as many young people who have no social skills whatsoever.

Interpersonal skills are a set of abilities that enable a person to interact positively and work effectively with others.   We have many young people who walk around in a mute stance. This should not be so.  Stranger Danger has done a number on our youth.  And while our young people should be careful of interacting with strangers, there should be an understanding of knowing when acknowledging a question is worthy of a response or not.  Parents should be the first to teach their children the difference between a stranger that signals danger, and a stranger that is being polite, or a teacher who expects an answer to a study lesson.

Interpersonal Interaction is vital in today's world.

Interpersonal Interaction is a communication process that involves the exchange of information, feelings and meaning by means of verbal and non-verbal messages, between two or more persons. 

The Quote chosen for today is worthy for reflection.  So many people are guarded.  Is it because they have been hurt before?  Is it because they are untrusting?  Or could it have something to do with the fact that so many people do not make direct eye contact.  Most criminals strike from behind.  We all know that criminals are really cowards.  And there is also something terribly wrong with people who cannot look you in the eye.

Looking into another person's eyes . . .

When you look into another person's eyes, you are showing respect, and you are exhibiting attention.  How you look into another person's eyes tells a story in and of itself.

When someone looks into your eyes, the first thing you notice is the emotion displayed in their eyes.  Is it joy?  Is it anger?  Is it fear?  Are their eyes showing you that they are deceptive?

What do your eyes say to others?

When people look at you with the eyes of intensity or attack, you immediately notice.  The question that may come to your mind is why?  Why are they looking at me like that?  If you have never met the person before, or not done anything to the person who is looking at you in an attack fashion, you'll nine times out of ten run the question, "why?"  through your mind.  The same holds true for a person who looks at you with deep intensity.

The best thing you can always do is stay poised.  Most of us admire and want to be more like the people we know who have poise, especially poise under pressure.

Poise under pressure is very useful.  During interviews, during speeches, during arguments, during performances, during Meetings, and at any time when needed.

Since there seems to be less and less of those individuals who have poise in the world, the more you have and demonstrate it, the more others will respect you and want respect from you and the more you will differentiate yourself from others who are rude, indifferent, uncaring, unkind, and/or obnoxious.  Your only opportunity to develop poise is when you are under pressure.  If you agree with that, then reframing stress, mistakes and doing damage control are among your best poise-increasing chances.

All people make mistakes at one time in the life or another. Most people know what stress feels like.  Instead of taking your mistakes to heart and carrying guilt and shame around in your back-pack, you need to re-think your feelings about your mistakes.  When you harbor bad feelings, you stress yourself out.  Not all stress comes from the outside of you. Most stress comes from the inside of you -- "your own thoughts" can be stressful, and sometimes deadly.

You can kill a perfect plan with your thoughts and your words.  Your thoughts & words have power.

In addition, you must always remember that the tone of your conversation is important.  Is it really necessary to be so intense about everything?  Is it useful to be curt and short with people with your words, facial expressions and actions? No one likes to be a around a smart-mouthed person who never knows when to stop being an instigator, or a bully, or just plain obnoxious.

Please put the following in your Journal . . .

Proverbs 15:1 ~ A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. (KJV)

Have you ever been around a person who speaks and their words grieve you or you have a feeling of vexation?

Vexatious People will always leave others in an annoyed, frustrated or worried state.  It is the nature of the spirit within them that causes them to act in the way in which they act.

Your Mission, should you choose to accept it, when you are dealing with difficult or irritating people is to remain poised.

A smile never hurt a soul ~ May your day be a good one, and may you remember to always stay poised.

People of  Poise ~ Until our next Blog Session . . .

Stay Poised

Peace, Love & Light,

 René

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